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January 8, 2012


I am crazy obsessed with the idea of taking a Roadmonkey trip to Patagonia in March.  I want to go so badly I can’t even articulate it.

The trip is 5 days of hiking and kayaking over glaciers and through lakes and fjords, and then 3 days building a community guarden in Buenos Aires.  I spoke with the founder of Roadmonkey on the phone last night and I am giddy.  Simply giddy.

I hope I can swing this…and get in shape.  5 days of hiking and kayaking, me?

January 4, 2012


I turned 40 a few months ago, and it’s also the new year.  That’s probably as good a reason as any to take a moment for introspection.  My friend Katrina has been gently suggesting that I get back into blogging, so I’ll start by making a list of random reflections (since I’m not a big maker of resolutions).

1. For me, life really has gotten better as I’ve aged. I’m as happy now as I’ve ever been.

2. I really need to develop an exercise routine.  Almost probably for certain.  Definitely maybe.

3. My life and my choices revolve around my son.

4. I am not the hard-charging career woman I thought I was in my 20’s.

5. I am a homebody.  I am absolutely the happiest at home and I am a “nester.”

6. I love the idea of romantic love but I’m not sure I’ll experience it again personally.

7. I believe in saving (spending less than I make) as a lifestyle choice.

8. Less is usually more.

9. Spend money on experiences, not stuff.

10. Kindness matters, a lot.

11. I will never be truly happy if I try to please others at the cost of being true to myself.

12. Coffee is the nectar of the gods.

13. Sometimes you have to slow down and listen to the spaces between things.

14. Lots can be made better with a good snuggle.

15. Sometimes things can’t be made better, and you need to leave.

16. Every woman should own a nice handbag and a good cordless drill.  And she should know how to use the drill.

17. Worry is a wasted emotion.  It cripples, is counterproductive, and produces no value.  Don’t do it.  Take action, make a plan, or let it go.

18.Cats are cool.

19. I should either learn to cook better or find a good man to cook for me. Since the latter isn’t likely I guess I need to get working on the former.

20. Life is about the journey, not the destination.  If you are waiting for things to “get better” they probably won’t.  Make things better now, or figure out a way to be happy in your current circumstances.

21. I am in charge of my happiness.  No one else.

I had originally hoped to come up with 40 things, but hey, 21 isn’t bad.

March 19, 2011

My Personal Manifesto

Since the new year I’ve been thinking about what I want out of life.  It’s one of the reasons I started this blog, as a place to keep track of my thoughts.  The OLW project has helped refine my thinking, as has my reading.  Finally in the last few weeks disparate thoughts have come together and I’ve created what I call my Personal Manifesto.

Live Intentionally – consistent with my Life’s Purpose.

Live Simply – free of clutter and “stuff”

Be Authentic – be myself, follow my heart, and don’t make choices according to what others expect or think I should do.

Be Mindful – Be in the present

Live by example – Practice what I preach, be a role model, be the person I want Matthew to learn how to be.  Act ethically and the way I would want to be treated.

Love – Actively demonstrate my love for Matthew and others in my life through my actions.

This list feels really good to me – something I can use as a roadmap when I am faced with a choice or decision – I can just decide which path best fits with the items I’ve outlined above.

A big part of this Manifesto is living consistently with my Life’s Purpose.  This is huge – wouldn’t it be great if we all lived in concert with our most cherished goals?  The hardest part for me is defining what it is my life’s purpose is all about.  That’s coming in a later post…I’m almost done articulating and refining what I think is a fair representation of it at this point in my life.

February 7, 2011

One Little Word | Captured

Week 6

This week I was not focusing on renewal.  The blizzard hit Chicago on Tuesday afternoon and at 8pm we lost power.  I agonized over whether to tough it out through the night at home, or pack up Matthew and head on foot to a neighbor’s with power.  We stayed and by the morning it was COLD but we were fine.

On Wednesday the day could have been awful but was instead lovely.  Our neighbors took us in and we were delighted with their warmth and graciousness.  I shoveled snow for the elderly woman who lives 2 doors down, and it seemed the whole community took to the street and sidewalks to catch up and play in the snow.  Matthew had a ball playing outside for hours – thank goodness for our great friends who fed us and kept us warm until our power came back on!

I think the lesson for me is that renewal can occur in unexpected places.  I renewed some connections with neighbors and had a terrific snow day with my son.  That carried me through what turned out to be the rest of a pretty crappy week.

What’s interesting for me as I explore my word is how its meaning seems to be changing for me.  I had picked it as an opportunity to take a life-reset.  Start over. Do things differently.  But it’s turning out to be the case that I’m finding renewal by accepting and appreciating what I already have.   Like a blizzard and no heat in 20 degree weather.  Which turned out to be a pretty OK thing.